Skip to main content

Overcoming Personal Fear(s)

A man whose mind is filled with fear, destroys his own chances of intelligent actions! -Napoleon Hill





I want you to for just a moment, close your eyes and think about all the things you wanted to do but did not do because you feared what could happen if you did just that? Think about all the opportunities you let go by the waste side throughout your lifetime because of fear? Now open your eyes, grab a scrap piece of paper and write down all the missed opportunities, after you are done look at the list and see all that was missed at the fault of no one person but you.

Fear is a state of mind that in no uncertain terms blocks you from reaching your full potential and the blessings that are in place for you to receive. Fear is as destructive as a black hole in space, it can and will suck all the life out of opportunities that exist for you for me, for you, for every person who lets it. 

As a man you have a lot of responsibility to perform in the bedroom to the boardroom. I will be the first to admit that being a man is indeed hard, not child bearing and child rearing hard, but it is indeed a close second. I know too many men including myself who became the victim of the pressure to perform and with that comes the fear of failure. Fear breeds doubt and questions like, What if I do not succeed? What if I am not good enough? Do I measure up? Do I have what it takes? When will it happen for me? Will I be the man that I want and need to be?

"Your thoughts and your feelings create your life!" - Lisa Nichols

I want you to write that quote down and repeat daily, I implore you to do so, trust me your life will depend on you creating a positive environment in your mind to counteract the spirit of fear that will try to engulf you. 

On a personal note, fear of failure, fear of being alone, fear of ridicule, fear of what people would think about me, fear of failure, fear of letting people down almost led to my demise, keyword, almost! How did I conquer the aforementioned list of personal fears? 

The answer came to me in a work seminar, in which we had to fill out a piece of paper on how the team could overcome any workplace obstacles. We filled out the 3 columns labeled Circumstance; Action; Result. After the meeting concluded and I had time to reflect and out of no where a light bulb went of in my mind that helped to overcome the entire list. Here is the formula: First I had to learn to embrace every bad and even every good circumstance that happened in my life as a teaching moment. I had to learn to ask the all important question, What lesson is the universe trying to teach me? Second I had to come up with a plan of action on how to overcome my personal fears that was holding me back from fulfilling my destiny. Third I had to make sure that my plan was sound. I had to make sure that my plan would yield tangible results. I had to make sure that my faith in God as well as my own ability to overcome my personal fears was more powerful than the fear that almost led to my demise. 

I am in no way saying what worked for me will work for you what I am saying is that it all starts with you acting, you going to God through prayer for direction, you being in a position to receive divine instructions from God and then implementing whatever solution that is presented to you.  Most of all believing in yourself.  I can tell you that it is never to late to get started, I am writing this blog because of the solution that was presented to me after God answered my prayers, you too can find your calling, you too and find what it is that is needed to fulfill your life, you too can find what it is that will complete you, all you have to do is know that God did not give his creation(YOU) a spirit of fear, God gave (YES YOU) a spirit of love, power and a sound mind!  

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

We Will Overcome!

Let me start by saying that this post does not come from a point of anger but from being frustrated with the way my people are treated as a whole in this country. I will state the obvious by saying that we are in tumultuous times in America. As a nation we are in complete and utter disarray, Why? You have to be completely off the grid not to realize that our leadership is the worst it has ever been and by voting Donald Trump into office we have wiped out lets say 50 years of advancement in our country.  As a nation and those persons who are in control are guilty of turning a blind eye to what we call for the lack a better phrase "social injustices" to Africans in America since the year 1619 in Jamestown, Virginia. I  am not laying or placing all the blame for the problems that exist in the United States on Donald Trump, he is just an example of all the things still wrong with our nation. The problems of bigotry, classism, and racism have and will exist in our nation until pe...

Being A Father: An Example To Your Son, A Hero To Your Daughter

What is the definition of being a father? There is an old adage that states "Anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a daddy!" A father, better yet a good father can and will have an immense impact on his child's life. A father's work is both endless and more times than not less rewarding than that of the mother of his child, but that is not what God made the father for, he made the father to be the status quo setter for his children as he has to be an active participant in order to see the fruits of his labor.   The adoration and love that the father shows his children is important. It is important for the father if married to show affection and love for the kids mother. It is important to instill the values that you want your children to follow for the rest of their lives. For the son, he will see his future in you.  When it comes to your son, he will want to do everything that his father does. Your son will ask questions, follow in and out of ev...

Your Woman; Your Responsibility

I think Sir William Goulding said it best: I think women are foolish to think they are equal to men, they are far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman she will make it greater. If you give her sperm, she will give you a baby. If you give a woman a house, she will give you a home. If you give a woman groceries, she will give you a meal. If you put a smile on her face, she will give you her heart. A woman multiplies and enlarges whatever is given to her. If you are a man and you do not think you need a good woman in your life, you do. If you are a man and you think that you can live without a good woman, you cannot. If you think that you will achieve success without a good woman in your life, you will not. If you think that you can play the field and survive, think again. God knew what to do when woman was created, she would be created to provide the yen to your yang. God knew what to do when woman was created, she would be created to be the motivating force in your...